[ 2014-12-30 ]

Lydia Forson: Leave me alone! Is it 'by force' to speak on KKD saga?
Plain-speaking Ghanaian actress and movie producer
Lydia Forson wants her peace of mind from critics
who are railroading her into commenting on the KKD
sexual assault saga.

“I’m not obligated to always have an opinion
about everything, and even if I do, I’m still
under no obligation to share it,” the voluptuous
blunts-speaking actress wrote on her Facebook
wall.

“I never write unless I’m absolutely sure of
what I want to say. Contrary to what people may
say, I don’t have the “I need to comment on
every issue to stay relevant” syndrome,” she
blurted.

Kwasi Kyei Darkwah was arrested on Saturday night
at the African Regent Hotel for allegedly sexually
assaulting a 19-year-old girl who spent some time
with him.

He has been in the custody of the Airport Police
Command since his arrest.

The 49-year-old has not denied having sex with the
19-year-old girl, but he has refuted claims that
he sexually assaulted her.

Sharing her opinion on the matter, Miss Forson who
is well known for sharing her “strong”
opinions on dicey issues said she speaks when she
wants to speak or find it necessary to do so on
such issues.

Below is her full statement on her Facebook page:

A lot of people are on my case for not publicly
giving my views in this issue. First of all, I’m
not obligated to always have an opinion about
everything, and even if I do, I’m still under no
obligation to share it.

In this case especially where it’s extremely
sensitive, I have to proceed with caution.

I never write unless I’m absolutely sure of what
I want to say. Contrary to what people may say, I
don’t have the “I need to comment on every
issue to stay relevant” syndrome.

I empathize with the victim if it’s true, and
understand what she may be doing through, trust me
I do. And I know many other women have and
continue to suffer in silence. It is a very
frightening road that many have had to walk alone
due to the shame and public persecution that often
comes out of speaking out.

To the alleged offender, I equally sympathize,
because there’s nothing worse than a false
accusation. I have also been there, where you’re
judged before you’re given the chance to say
your side. The damage some of these allegations
can do is irreparable.

Either way someone’s life will be ruined forever
because of this.

So I don’t want to talk about the “alleged”
victim or the “alleged” offender in question.
I’ll let the police and investigators do their
job. Because to be fair, regardless of what anyone
may say we weren’t there and no matter how much
we may hate or love any of the people involved in
this case only the two backed by concrete evidence
can actually tell us the truth.

I’d rather talk about something else in relation
to this.

Let’s talk about our attitude towards the whole
idea of “rape”. How we react to the victim,
the offender and the events leading up to the
“act”.

Rape is a very difficult subject which can start a
long debate. It isn’t about how the victims
looks, his/her willingness to be in the presence
of her attacker, his/her background, his/her
lifestyle or his/her past. It’s basically boils
down to consent. And even in that a victim can say
yes, and has the right to change his/her mind. If
by making that known to the person, he/she
proceeds to force himself/herself on the other
party, it’s RAPE.

Now I understand how confusing this maybe, trust
me, even for the victims themselves they often
question if they have been raped or not due to
some of these factors.

A lot of their attackers, in most cases genuinely
believe it was consensual, because the big
question often put out there is” why were you in
his/her presence “?( Watch for Coloured Girls)

Especially in a society where no, always means a
maybe , or a slow yes, or a I really want to do
this but I don’t want you to think I’m a slut
so I’ll say no, but hope you’ll push further
until I have no choice but to agree, yes.

The statements from some of you, especially the
“educated” “know it all” “social media
activists” and” I have the need to be heard”
people is not only frightening but sad. You would
think we would be more objective and less
sentimental.

I’ve always argued that if you get in trouble in
the country, your sentence basically boils down to
whether people like you or not.

If you’re liked, your actions will be
justified.
If you’re not liked, let’s just say you will
be sentenced to public court, tried, convicted and
completely humiliated to the point that prison
will seem like a luxury.

So lesson here… Make sure you’re liked at all
cost.

You better like me

Source - Starrfmonline

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